"There I was, giggling about the game, that I had played with many hearts but I'm not saying no names" LL Cool J, I NEED LOVE
The first time I was introduced to the concept of love language, was during a prerequisite class I was taking to become a certified Medical Assistant. I don't recall why it had been a topic of discussion in that class, but it was interesting. It was actually timely information being that I had recently gotten married, but I honestly don't think I applied it much then.
I was interested enough to purchase the book Love Languages, and I do remember my ex wife and I reading a few chapters together, but at the time it was too hard for us to change learned behavior.
This blog began with a bar from LL's I NEED LOVE, in which he told of a situation where he reflected on how he had done some of his past girlfriends. The concept of the song centered around his desire to be a better man in what I would guess would be a committed situation, but what about the old him!!
This was the man that ladies loved, no pun intended! To understand that women are the most complex creatures on earth to me would be an understatement. I find them to never be satisfied with anything completely. Case in point, why is the man that knowingly has more than one woman more attractive to women than the one woman man? 2Pac was a perfect example, I GET AROUND was celebrated and loved by as many women as it was men back in the day. Just the same, why is the so called "bad boy" more desired and reveared by women than good guys?
I leave that statement as an open question, if you chose to give an opinion in the comments it would be appreciated.. but going further I also ask what do you think your love language is!?
For anyone who hasn't heard of or read the book, they're basically broken down into five, and they are words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time, and physical touch.
There are several more that come to mind for me, and even though I could get with all of the aforementioned, none of them resonate as the most important. Number one for me would be respect, which is quickly followed by trust. I believe that in an intimate relationship between man and woman, the man should be the leader. I'm not coming from a place of dominance, to lead from my understanding simply means to be responsible for others as well as yourself.
I do believe that there are situations that the woman not only can lead, but should lead, and if the man is playing his position correctly, she'll be equipped with all that she needs if the day comes where she must take responsibility for the body. Understanding that men generally pass on before women, this day is more than likely to occur.
With that being said, do you trust me to lead this body, body representing both of us in the relationship. Trust also speaks of faith, and if I can see the respect that you have, and feel the trust, I know that my woman has faith in me/us!
In closing, I believe there are alot of men that would agree with what I deem to be a fading language of love, faith! This may be a result of getting away from the Word, but let's end with this..
9:27 And when Jesus departed thence, two blind men followed him, crying, and saying, Thou son of David, have mercy on us.9:28 And when he was come into the house, the blind men came to him: and Jesus saith unto them, Believe ye that I am able to do this? They said unto him, Yea, Lord. Matthew
9:29 Then touched he their eyes, saying, According to your faith be it unto you. Matthew
My language is faith, if you speak anything other than that, it's babble to me!